"I have dog fur all over my laptop."
Meet Walt. The puppy next door.
Throughout the last week, I've been surrounded by dogs. Every morning, after I work out with my trainer, I take Bella and Bruno on a walk.
The heat rises from the asphalt. The South Carolinian sun beats down and by the time I'm back in the air conditioned house 20 minutes later, I'm also two shades darker.
I've been writing my book, How to Disappoint Your Parents in 10 Shameless Steps. So, of course, I had to buy this hat from the restaurant we went to on Sullivan Island...
Months ago, I knew that because my daughter would be with her father for three weeks in Thailand this summer, I didn't want to stay in San Diego all that time. I needed to get out of my routine for two reasons:
To alleviate missing my 10-year-old.
To focus on writing my book.
Who would have thought that in this tiny town outside of Charleston, I would:
Find a community of readers who've asked me to send sample chapters to them — one of whom came over tonight and gave me extremely thoughtful feedback.
Work out any stressors I might've felt from diving into childhood memories that has everyone saying, "How are you this person who's smiling in front of us now?"
Lead my trainer's wife through a Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) Breakthrough Session, as she's experiencing a huge transition in her life right now, so that when she looked at her Greater Problem — written in her own handwriting — she said, "Oh, that's totally silly." A 10/10 intensity went down to a 0 after 1 session of release work.
Find a whole new level of peace & calm, staring out my window at the Frances Marion Forrest longleaf pines and taking in a thunderstorm where the trees swayed like giants with a mysterious story to tell.
That peace and calm is everything.
Because, in my mid-20's, I couldn't cross the street without having my heart leap out of my chest with anxiety. The loudness of my worry became a din that muted everything else in my life, so the only things I could focus on were how to not mess up and how to be perfect and how to "get it all right."
I felt so wrong, I couldn't be comfortable in my own skin.
Now, I start every morning doing the OAK Journal that I got from the Entrepreneurs Organization Rise event. That's the night I got onto a plane to fly to Charleston.
Do you know that high achievers (who've had traumatic childhoods) take one of two paths?
Dr. Jim Doty is a Stanford neurosurgeon, world-renowned neuroscientist, New York Times bestselling author, founder and director of the Stanford Center for Compassion, Altruism, Research, and Education, former chairman of the Dalai Lama Foundation, military veteran, and founder of multiple medical device companies. (Just to name a few qualifications.)
He did an interview with Mel Robbins that used neuroscience to validate all the work I do with my coaching clients, and he shares his personal experiences that brought him into the work he does:
The Choice You Make:
"... if you grew up in a background like mine, typically there are two paths. One is the path you become an alcoholic, drug abuser, have mental health issues. The other is you over-excel, right, overachieve."
Then the Path Splits Again:
"Then the path of the overachiever gets bifurcated. There's one group who say, 'Nobody helped me. I did this all myself. I'm not gonna help anybody else.' Then you have the other group, which I probably typified maybe excessively, where I understand the pain people go through. And very deeply. So I'm very attuned to that."
Which path are you on?
If you're a high achiever who finds yourself waking up in the middle of the night, anxious and worried, please know that you don't have to live like that.
If I can get over debilitating anxiety to reach a place where I can be present in any environment I'm in — planned or unplanned — you can, too.
Here for you,
Judy
This week's Masterclass: "Own the Room (or Zoom)"
You've found your voice (Week 2 ✓). Now let's make it magnetic.
Picture this: You join that Zoom call and instantly command attention. You speak up in meetings and people lean forward. You hit record on that video and your authentic confidence shines through the screen.
Week 3 of the Magnetic Influence Masterclass Month is "Own the Room (or Zoom)," which bridges the gap between having a clear message and delivering it with natural magnetism. You'll learn the embodiment techniques that make your signature voice feel as powerful as it sounds.
What you'll gain: The ability to show up confidently on any platform — think: video calls, presentations, content creation — feeling grounded in your value instead of performing for approval.
The shift: From "I hope they like what I have to say" to "I know this will help them."
Let's get rid of that performance anxiety, perfectionism, and procrasti-learning together.
Last F*ck Saving Face episode of the season — and the next one is gonna be different.
Susan Lieu closes out Season 4 of F*ck Saving Face!
If I could tell you all the amazing things this client of ours — from personal branding to coaching — has accomplished in the time we've known her, you'd be as stoked as I am.
On this episode, Susan challenges me to reflect, the way that I've done for her!
During the next season, I'm going to dive into the life-changing transformations NLP is bringing forward and how my clients — from venture capital fund managers looking to have $300M in assets under management to cultural icons — are experiencing.
I've always felt like I was destined for spiritual coaching, but the left-brained tiger parented part of me felt like that was way too woo to handle. Everyone who's heard me talk about my coaching recently knows THIS is what I'm meant to do. So, we're going to experience tools that'll help unblock and unlock your unconscious blueprint, too.
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